How to handle divorce, lusts..

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It still comes as a shock to many that they are facing a divorce, woe, sorrows and hardships seem still to be these days for the false initializer of divorce.
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These days it is very likely that you get divorced as likely as you will get cancer or a heart disease, diabetes.  Rejection Leads to Depression and Anxiety. “Rejection is one thing, but divorce is another. It is everything of rejection and still more. It is a cruel death to marriage. No funeral service is held. No friends gather to express their heartfelt sympathy. Divorce is one of the most humiliating things that can happen, as your life seems to be a complete failure and you believe that everyone else sees you this way, too. It seems that all eyes are looking at you condemning . Rejection and then divorce are such negative experiences and can become very depressive. A heavy spirit must be dealt with. We must allow God to take charge and completely take over in our lives or else we may be completely devastated. Don’t be surprised if you experience rejection even from someone in your family. ”  https://postedat.wordpress.com/2018/03/15/estrangement/
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Divorce Counsel from most Bible-believing pastors tends to be absurd, unbiblical. Your marriage relationship may have ended but your life has not! There are no guarantees that God would someday restore your marriage. Don’t fall for the lie that God helps only the picture-perfect family; Scripture reminds us that Jesus lifts up those who are broken, rejected, downhearted and desperate. He will make the tragedy of your divorce one of those “all things [that] work together for good” (see Romans 8:28) as you determine to love Him through it all.. We can choose to go on carrying our heavy hurt, or we can make choices to move forward. Divorce is a death – the death of a marriage.
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Most experts agree that the grief surrounding divorce is much more complicated than the emotions following the death of a spouse. Friends and family can be insensitive or hurtful after a divorce. Ask God to show you how you can rely on Him to help you thrive after other people have rejected you. Keep in mind when dealing with the uncertainty of human relationships that you can always count on God’s constant presence with you and steadfast love for you. Ask God to help you learn whatever He wants you to learn from your breakup or divorce, and to help you overcome any struggles with insecurity or jealousy. I wondered how I could now serve the Lord and new doors opened
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Funny how so many persons want others to be prefect, when nobody is, especially them. I put my trust in God and not in man.. We submit ourselves solely to God, to Jesus and the Holy Spirit.. who guides us, leads us into all truth. All friendship, relationship, submission not just in marriages in real life now too is reciprocal, and unenforced. Jesus Christ is still the head of the Church, Churches! Let me be very clear about that Jesus has set me free, now I am a slave to no man but to Jesus Christ himself, alone. I serve no man, especially any of the clearly foolish, perverted ones, and I take orders from no man, I do not have to do what they desire or try to command me to do at any time too. No matter if they still do wrongfully think otherwise too. I am still only God’s slave and not any man’s. 

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Falsely even now trying to blame the  spouse for all or most of the marital problems is ludicrous still too. There are still even negative emotional traumas, experiences associated with almost all divorces since you still tend to in real life to reap what you have sown, the personal lies and your acts of thefts included now. You do still have to live with the negative consequences of the divorce and your own major unacceptable personal negative contributions to the divorce and that is also the reasons so many people tend to have more than one divorce next too. In a sadly too common, unacceptable divorce scenario, one of the spouse pictures themselves as the innocent party and the other side is painted as a big bad villain. I admit I am dumbfounded that most  spouses,  wives  included,  falsely believe they personally will not reap the bad things they have sowed in their marriage. What fools they really still are! Cheat, lie, steal , slander, abuse ,    adultery, there is a price next to pay for it still too. No matter who you think you are.

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Is 2:22 Cease to trust in [weak, frail, and dying] man, whose breath is in his nostrils [for so short a time]; in what sense can he be counted as having intrinsic worth?

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Decide you’re going to stay married, no matter what. Literally When a woman first seriously considers divorce she usually isn’t thinking about the theological implications of her desires – all she knows is that she is desperate wants to get more from her husband. She doesn’t arrive at this state of desperation by a process of calm deduction. Most husbands have few memories of “hurting” their wives and do not give it any thought. The truth is that a hardened woman only got that way because she was elf centred, selfish. Most women leave their husbands, because they entered marriage with false expectations Such a wife will be consumed by bitterness. She should realize the negative impact of her bad decisions will have, on her children or others . Her heart is too far hardened, and will not now respond to words of Truth. She falsely blames him for her bitterness.  https://postedat.wordpress.com/2018/01/16/divorce-abortions-polygamy-adultery-are-immoral-as-being-gay/

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Yes  a wife tends not to file for divorce unless she already has hopes of potential future gains, a present cash reserve, the support of her own family for the divorce, and a pre picked potential future sex partner.  Divorce also clearly is still  not a valid teaching, doctrine of  the Christian church. When you file for divorce it is very likely cause you are a sex maniac or a control freak.. If you are a Control freak you are not only still an unrealistic, immature, immoral person but you may have a serious mental condition  http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/07/control-freaks/
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The husband generally response  like this.. “Out of the blue my wife says she is divorcing me, and she wants everything of mine since she says I am a 100 percent to blame for the marriage failure.” 
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Who’s telling the truth in a divorce dispute . Without a doubt, many fingers that get pointed at belong to the people who are truthful. it is very hard to determine who is telling the truth with the  salacious false stories, gossip, misinformation and lies about his personal life . So there’s often a big problem in sorting out the truthful accusers from the lying accusers who lie because of  a profit motive. sexual lusts, melding;  in-laws.  The spouse she may look refined, but  she  can get very vicious when angry, she is a gold-digging fantasist, a blackmailer. a liar.   She makes False claims that don’t have time stamps  and have   been doctored.  The estranged wife  is ‘making up’ false claims of domestic abuse in order to boost her divorce settlement.  It is not unusual for the divorce perpetrator’s playbook to include miscasting the victim as the sole villain.’ As she was leaving him she had threatened to ‘lie about him publicly if he didn’t agree to her terms, over a clash over parental rights spiced by  the  in-laws, her parents’ “desperate desire” for her and the children to move  near them, so that they the children can have a closer relationship with their maternal grandparents,”  The “affluent” in-laws are “bankrolling” her litigation so that they could enjoy easier access to the grandchildren. The spouse was also  fighting over the preservation of hidden assets and stolen heirlooms. she is thus accused  of cooking up the abuse story to influence a judge’s decision on spousal support
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The one sided narrative of a clearly money hungry, money grabbing wife is common in this age, as she is perfect and he is the one all in the wrong too..      
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In reality both  partners are to blame for the marriage failure likely..
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While there are many reasons for a divorce such as unrestrained sexual lusts, laziness, unrealistic expectations, monetary greed and theft, forgiveness and the false support of the divorce by close friends and family miners too, even bad pastors.
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Fornication, Adultery, Marital failures, and many other destructive conditions, exist because of personal sin.  They also do exist because humans have decided that their way is better than God’s way.  They have decided that fulfilling their desires is more important than obeying and glorifying the Creator/Sustainer of the universe.  Nevertheless, all persons must  learn what the Bible says about sin, adultery in order to see it the way God sees it.  Only when we change our views to line up with God’s views can we live the full, blessed life He has waiting for us. Personal Sins of commission are also  often the result of One’s sins of omission, even the sin of presumption.
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Now some people claim fighting over the money and / or lack of communications is the main causes of divorce.
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LETS NOT PRETEND TO BE DUMB AND DENY THAT MANY OF THE DIVORCING SPOUSES EVEN PROFESSING CHRISTIAN ONES AND THEIR LAWYERS, SUPPORTERS THEY DO FIRSTLY LIE EVEN IN WRITING  TO THE COURTS TOO.. THEY DO COMMIT PERJURY TO THE COURTS IN DIVORCE DISPUTES, AND TOO OFTEN WASTE THE COURT’S TIME  AND TAX PAYER’S MONEY CAUSE BASICALY THEY ARE ALL STILL  PROSTITUTES, EVEN THE LAWYERS THEY PROVIDE THEIR SERVICES   
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Marriage has recently become a capstone for the privileged class. The decline of marriage, to the extent that we’re seeing it, is happening almost exclusively among the poor. The lowest-earning men and women (i.e.: the least-educated men and women) have seen the steepest declines in marriage rates,  Reality-  THE BAD SPOUSES will still carry on their  shortcomings still next IN THEIR LIFE AND INTO THE NEXT MARRIAGES..
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Money issues is part of it.. but often it is still the unrealistic expectations and many other reasons.. But here is an interesting question did your spouse respond to you the way you have responded to God.
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Fornication, Adultery, Marital failures, and many other destructive conditions, exist because of sin.  They also do exist because humans have decided that their way is better than God’s way.  They have decided that fulfilling their desires is more important than obeying and glorifying the Creator/Sustainer of the universe.  Nevertheless, all persons must  learn what the Bible says about sin, adultery in order to see it the way God sees it.  Only when we change our views to line up with God’s views can we live the full, blessed life He has waiting for us. Personal Sins of commission are also  often the result of One’s sins of omission, even the sin of presumption.

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Believe it or not when you sin deliberately and do not admit it, stop the sin even, there is still a price to pay.. even now especially for adultery… divorce… One of the undeniable punishment is that your sin is shouted from the Housetops..   http://postedat.wordpress.com/2013/11/07/sin-is-sequential/

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Most church attendees are so entrenched in their practice of ignoring and even worse,flagrantly violating Jesus’ teachings on the sacredness of marriage, with their unbiblical violations that are taught from the pulpits of their churches, that they they do not recognize or understand the apostasy they have dedicated their lives to practice falsely divorce. .yes they falsely  even multiple re-marriages, for the financial gain of the church. And why do most pastors allow divorce.. in reality they are still sex maniacs who want to keep the option of divorce.. Sad. The divorce rate among Christians exceeds that of non-Christians.A life of marriage creates extreme dependency upon a human rather than upon God so that emotional desires are met which results in a strong craving and even a psychological need for another marriage after a divorce occurs.Re- marriages which also are strongly promoted in many churches, create a one-way death ticket to hell:  Mark 10:11-12 (New King James Version)  11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” Luke 14:25-27 (New King James Version) 25 Now great multitudes went with Him. And He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, WIFE and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple. 27 And whoever does not bear his cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple. We must love also now still Jesus so much that we will sacrifice our own lives, family  to serve Him and Him alone.God Himself has now promised to meet all of our needs if we serve Him, not our wants, lusts, desires, wishes.   http://kambulow.blogspot.ca/2013/06/god-always-comes-first.html 
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Now you certainly still now  next cannot make someone live with you.. and how realistically is it to falsely expect them then  to even change now too?

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A DIVORCE STILL TENDS NOT TO BE A NEW HAPPY START ALL OVER AGAIN EXPERIENCE IN FACT and with no negative personal consequences such as severe health problems and a big  financial losses now too.

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Also in a divorce you tend to carry the old baggage and scars still with you on and in .

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Many a person  when they see these people divorcing they really tend next not to recognize them and their behavior, for it clearly is different from what they had known before, were used too in fact

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(Mark 10:29 KJV)  And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospel’s, 30 But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life.
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Here is a quick Bible study for you folks.. notice above that wife is singular, and Jesus himself does not promise to replace your old wife with a new wife.
 
Face it the single biggest cause of depression basically is your own doings and not just a bad marriage.. But don’t expect any marriage to make you happier over having a personal relationship with God still or the new or old marriage to be a false substitute for having a personal relationship with God. I have been recently counseling a person who desperately wants to be remarried, she has been twice married, but she is not interesting in following after God only after her own desires, lusts.. so no marriage for her will make her happy or replace God’s vacuum in her life still too. God has not promised you now even a right of remarriage.. but he promised you peace, joy and happiness and yes you can have that outside of marriage with Jesus..

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The negative reality also now is that a divorce really does not change anything, it does not turn the clock backwards and merely let you start all over again as foolish, immature politicians, others, ostriches rather, would wrongfully let you to believe.

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Divorce is also still one of the worst possible way to try to get security and happiness.

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ONE OF THE MOST COMMON, POPULAR TOPICS, SEARCHES ON THE INTERNET is can a Christian next get divorced and remarried, and the simple answer is no! but wait  do not stop reading yet.. if you are married, living to a demon, a control freak, a liar, a lazy good for nothing abusive person then please now do immediately get out of the marriage, do get an immediate separation.. and this not the kind of advice you would expect from a preacher of peace and love, but I am telling you all this for our own good, and you can thank me later.. and maybe next the still good for nothing bum, lousy spouse, he or she will wake up as to what she is really like and they may try to get help to change herself, himself.. but meanwhile don’t feel guilty about the peace you now have in your life.. By the way make sure first you are not the creepy, a good for nothing spouse yourself otherwise by your actions you will be doing your own spouse a great, great service.
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Now as remarriage generally is still out of the question even as it does not deal with the reasons you are facing the divorce.. you made a real bad choice  and are likely to repeat it too..
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There are much too many even too typical Professing Christians now, even amongst the Catholics, Anglicans, Pentecostal,  Fundamentals, Plymouth Dispensational Brethren, and whether they are open or closed Brethren, that are still deceitful .. and  they are also those same persons who do  still falsely and too often substitute next their own or  men ‘s false teaching for those of  Christ’s, and while the one Bible still does opposes divorce for all Christian persons, even the Plymouth Brethren undeniably, they too do often even encourage  the divorce of any spouse, Christian or not, especially anyone who does not heed to the full brethren doctrines, for solely according to them too falsely the deceived Christian wife does not need to listen to her husband in anything, even from the same husband who was to be the head of the home as admonished by Jesus , especially if he does not jump at their command.. Not only the Brethren, but even bad Fundamental, Pentecostal, bad Baptist pastors also falsely now teach and do this as well all done while they falsely try to maintain a full, crooked control and economic grasp over their religious empires.. The poor wife who is seduced by any of these bad pastors is surely headed for a very severe downfall next ..
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Now as far as that supposedly  innocent spouse of yours, the all perfect one.. do tell her that mane and women are equal sinners still.
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Matthew 7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the  beam that is in thine own eye?

4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a  beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the  beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.

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Luke 6:41 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but perceivest not the  beam that is in thine own eye? 42 Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the  beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye.

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Ecclesiastes 7 20 For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not.

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Romans 3 23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

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Jude 1:20,21  But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost, Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.

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PEOPLE WHO PUT THEIR TRUST, EYES ON OTHERS ARE CURSED BY GOD NEXT.. the same person  who are often  lazy, unrealistic, has false values and false expectations ..

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Philippians 3:18 (For many walk, of whom I have told you often, and now tell you even weeping, that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ:

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True happiness cannot be in reality achieved without having a continual, personal relationship with God here on earth and us knowing and following solely his will of our life too.

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Understandably too many persons are discontented unhappy today with themselves ,and others and they basically have a God shaped vacuum that they are trying to fill in with alcohol, bad drugs, verbal abuse , friends.  power, control, sex, smoking or whatever, and none of this counterfeit fulfillment will even help to make for their own personal lasting happiness too.

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Personal depression is also related to being self centered,  having a God shaped vacuum in our own life, and from deviating from God, his words in the Bible, God’s will and plan for our life too. Jesus made it very clear that without Him one can do nothing, meaning one cannot be successfully happy, effective.

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Many people still to often make the very serious mistake of following after someone, instead of God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit.

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The Women are often falsely depressed cause they out unrealistic hope, faith, expectations, idoltary in their spouses.  (1 John 2:17 KJV) And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.  Why are so many people still obsessed with IDOLS,  fantasy, romance, divorce,  drugs, alcohol, even TV, movies, sex, pleasure, pornography.. for most of them personally it is an initial lazy,  false escapism approach from the too often real negative aspects of life that we firstly all tend to have, particularly due to our own unrepentant sins and due to  Satan’s buffeting, harassment of them.. the grass may appear greener in the neighbors yard cause you do not know what hardships they are facing now, the supposedly rich persons included. While God for his faithful few give them the grace to endure hardships and even to overcome them, we are all nevertheless bound to have trails and tribulations, hardships, all of us..  Instead of personally first learning how to use the Bible to oppose Satan, obtain peace in their own life, too many persons turn to the flesh.. The problem also  with the common graphic misrepresentation of the pleasure of sex but the reality is that even the Gays, lesbians, adulterers tend to have even more negative consequences, oppressions in their life to force them into deeper bondage with Satan.. Jesus sets us free from all that.

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Why is God jealous of idols before us? well it means he is envious for our own good..  he strives for all things to be  our good… What idols? what ever replaces God is an idol.. what ever you falsely worship as  substitute for God. And  it can be drugs, booze, sex, or your wife, HUSBAND,  pastor, father, son , daughter, a person, car,. self…  for we have a god shaped  vacuum in our life.. filling it with false substitutes, junk will never be acceptable to God. Never.

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If you still do have a God shaped vacuum that is unfilled, then no other things, no relationships or careers, goals, next will satisfy you, not any personal, social, community relationships.. http://cityocean.wordpress.com/2010/09/03/marriage-problems-or-a-realtionship-problem/

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There is not one verse in the Bible that says still that a man has to be a provider…. the women helps in this matter as per Pr 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

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It seems that many people, professing Christians included now, tend to personally only seek God only when they have serious needs, problems or they do want something really bad and next when the problem is solved, or they got what they wanted, they next often tend to, do seem to forget about God again? True happiness cannot be in reality achieved without having a continual, personal relationship with God here on earth and us continually knowing and following solely his will of our life too, instead of Idols.    Why is God jealous of idols before us? well it means he is envious for our own good.. he strives for all things to be our good… What idols? what ever replaces God is an idol.. what ever you falsely worship as substitute for God. And it can be drugs, booze, sex, or your wife, son , daughter, a persons, car,  self, even your church, your pastor, your denomination, your own doctrines, beliefs, your culture, nationality … for we all had or  have a god shaped vacuum in our life.. but  filling it with extremes or  false substitutes, junk will never be acceptable to God. Never. If you still do have a God shaped vacuum that is unfilled, then no other things, no relationships or careers, goals, next will satisfy you, not even any personal, social, community relationships, acts.  Hey I also have learned long time ago that merely telling the truth to some people will not work, they have their false idols, false lies they still want to handle, and they will take the Ostrich approach to the truth, but hopefully the truth will next still help some people. https://witnessed.wordpress.com/2012/02/05/you-can-have-no-idols-.before-god-ever/

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Are You On The Road To Hell?  What kind of people will populate Hell?  Or, more precisely, the Lake of Fire?
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The answer would surprise most people. sins which will keep you out of Heaven,  The Apostle John lists some of them here:
◾Cowards
◾Faithless
◾People who practice detestable things
◾Murderers
◾Sexually immoral
◾Sorcerers
◾Idolaters
◾Liars
Sexual sins are included.
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“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18
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3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control his own body[a] in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. 7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8 Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.  1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
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“Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.”–1 Cor. 6:9,10
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“But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Matthew 5:28
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“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.” Colossians 3:5
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“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4
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Romans 7:2- “For example, by law a married women is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. 3 So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from the law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another
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 Jesus Christ said in…Mark 10:11-12…11″Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another women commits adultery against her. 12 And if she divorces her husband and she marries another man, she commits adultery.” This verse by Jesus Christ Himself makes it very clear that man nor women is to leave the marriage.
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 Jesus also spoke about divorce in. Matthew 5:31-32 31″It has been said, `Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. 32`But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and any one who marries the divorced women commits adultery.’…Notice in verse 32 where it says …except for marital unfaithfulness’
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Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils (1 Tim 4:1, KJV)
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If a Christian’s faith in Jesus Christ includes fornication, adultery, homosexual activity, indulging in pornography, etc. then this “Jesus” is not the Jesus of the Bible. Those who believed on Christ years ago and have brought forth fruits meet for repentance but now have given in to the lusts of the flesh will be “cut off” because they have not continued in God’s goodness.   Rom. 11:2222 Behold therefore the goodness and severity of God: on them which fell, severity; but toward thee, goodness, if thou continue in his goodness: otherwise thou also shalt be cut off.
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For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths. (2 Tim 4:3,4)
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Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God (NASB) 1 Cor. 6:9,10,
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 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a man is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore, do not be partners with them (Eph. 5:5-7).
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But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death (Rev. 21:8).
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Romans 1:24- 24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator – who is forever praised. Amen
26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed in lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
28  Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, He gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29 They became filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.
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The true plan of salvation is repentance towards God and faith in Christ Jesus (Acts 20:21). We prove our repentance by our deeds (Acts 26:20). The Lord Jesus taught the road to life is hard and only a few will find it (Mt. 7:13,14, NKJV). Many get saved, but afterwards fall away (Lk. 8:13; Jn. 6:66; 1 Tim. 1:19; etc.). In other words, after initial salvation we must endure to the end to enter the kingdom of God and escape eternal torment in the lake of fire (Mt. 10:22; Heb. 3:14; Rev. 2:10,11). Eternal life comes to the repentant the moment such believe on Jesus for salvation (Jn. 3:16; 6:47; 1 Jn. 5:12,13), but there is another important aspect of eternal life that many are totally unaware of in our day because of the false teaching and doctrine of demons of eternal security. According to true grace teaching, eternal life is also a hope (Titus 3:7), yet to be reaped (Gal. 6:8,9) in the age to come (Mk. 10:30) for only the ones who persist in doing good (Rom. 2:7) and do not grow weary and give up (Gal. 6:9).
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If a saved person sows to please his sinful nature (flesh) he’ll die spiritually (Rom. 8:13; Gal. 6:8,9; James 5:19,20). The prodigal is a clear example of this (Lk. 15:24,32). Spiritual death can occur to a Christian, so do not be deceived (James 1:14-16)! You can be sure that a righteous person will die spiritually if he turns to evil (Ezek. 18:24; 33:18; etc.).
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Jesus is not nice.  The Son of God is everything His Father is, and He has been appointed the Judge of all men, living and dead.  He is not going to be nice on that Day.  He will be loving toward His own.  He will be gracious and merciful when He chooses and for His glory.  But He will not be nice.  EVERY deed, EVERY word will be judged.
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Most of what we tend to encounter in film, radio, books, magazines under the term “Romance – Love” are merely seductive evil spirits, and the lust of the decaying flesh.) Surprising Insights -Romantic fiction: the female equivalent of porn?  Just as it is morally wrong for a man to develop an appetite for women other than his wife by exposing himself to porn, so it is wrong for a wife to expose herself to romantic fiction, because it could stimulate dissatisfaction with her husband. The  amazing similarities between women viewing or reading romantic fiction (soap operas, movies and romance novels, etc) and men viewing soft porn.Few of those engaged in either activity see any harm in it. They think they can have a little fantasy and a little pleasure without it weakening their real life relationships. It’s so easy to excuse enjoying romantic fiction, just as it’s easy for men to excuse appreciating female flesh. Both erotica and romantic fiction create images of, and create a longing for, things that no normal partner could ever match, with the result that both sexes end up wishing their partners were more like those portrayed on the screen. With porn, lighting, making up, poses, photo touch-ups (even plastic surgery) and so on mean that even beautiful women cannot compete. In addition, men become addicted to variety. Romantic novels, films etc. are equally artificial and impossible for any normal man to get anywhere near equaling. Novelists and script writers devote enormous effort to getting the man saying the perfect thing in just the right romantic setting. They are experts in knowing what appeals to women, like those involved in the porn industry are experts in knowing what appeals to men. In real life situations not even the writers themselves could equal the charm of their fictional characters. Normal conversation, for instance, would not allow them enough time to get their lines right. Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust. II Pet. 1:4

Since the beginning of the world men have not heard, nor perceived by the ear, neither hath the eye seen, O God, beside thee, what he hath prepared for him that waiteth for him. Isa. 64:4

“Romantic Fiction and Christians- The Hidden Enemy  http://net-burst.net/help/fiction.htm

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Song of Solomon

 

My Beloved is mine and I am his. (Song of Solomon, 2:16). Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine. (Solomon 1:2). She shall be brought unto the King in raiment of needlework: the virgins her companions that follow her shall be brought unto thee (Psalms 45:14)

Song of Solomon

a: The Song of Solomon is a dialogue which   according to some includes 5 different sets of speakers…

(1) The Shulammite woman (Song 1:2-4a, 1:4c-7, 1:12-14, 1:16-2:1, 2:3-13, 2:15-3:11, 4:16, 5:2-8, 5:10-16, 6:2-3, 6:11-12, 7:9b-8:4, 8:5b-7, 8:10-12, 8:14),

(2) Friends of the Shulammite (Daughters of Jerusalem) (Song 1:4b, 1:8, 1:11, 5:9, 6:1, 6:10, 6:13a, 8:5a)

(3) King Solomon 

(4) God (Song 5:1e “Eat friends, drink and imbibe deeply O lovers”)

(5) Shulammite’s brothers (Song 8:8-9)

The love of a King for a young maiden

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b: The Song of Solomon is a dialogue which   according to others  includes 6 different sets of speakers…

(1) The Shulammite woman (Song 1:2-4a, 1:4c-7, 1:12-14, 1:16-2:1, 2:3-13, 2:15-3:11, 4:16, 5:2-8, 5:10-16, 6:2-3, 6:11-12, 7:9b-8:4, 8:5b-7, 8:10-12, 8:14),

(2) Friends of the Shulammite (Daughters of Jerusalem) (Song 1:4b, 1:8, 1:11, 5:9, 6:1, 6:10, 6:13a, 8:5a)  – back sliding Christians whose advice is faulty

(3) The old King Solomon – the tempter, seducer  where Solomon seems to try to love many women..

(4) The SHEPHERD – Jesus Christ

(5 God (Song 5:1e “Eat friends, drink and imbibe deeply O lovers”)

(6) Shulammite’s brothers (Song 8:8-9)

The attempted seduction of a tempted young maiden by an old king

Traditional, conservative Bible expositors tend to support a:

But are they always right or do they rarely even agree with each other?

I know that to some persons it may be flattering to a debauched king, rather then a King in waiting Jesus Christ.. the second interpretation is also more consistent with the Historical rather unwise King Solomon who was a known womanizer, who had a big harem and many ungodly wives as well.
  
The song of songs which is Solomon’s…  the Bible’s most beautiful poetical work, the Song of Solomon portrays the heart longing, devotion and love between a shepherd lover and a poor maiden. And, the old testament allusions help us to see more than an ancient romance; we see a fitting representation of God’s, Jesus’s expectancy and longing to be completely united with His people while the old  world, the old flesh and the old devil try to lead them astray
 

Note: The phrase “do not arouse or awaken love” is used three times in the Song of Solomon! As the sexual tension builds up between them, the man exercises his character and “puts the brakes on”, so to speak. Restraint during dating and courtship proves and demonstrates the character necessary for marriage!

Looking at this subject of sex  as found often on the TV or  as preached by so called pastors, I cannot help but think that they are all sex starved well bred stallions in heat..

New International Version (©1984) Jeremiah 5:8  They are well-fed, lusty stallions, each neighing for another man’s wife.

New International Version (©1984) “You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife. You shall not set your desire on your neighbor’s house or land, his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”
 
New American Standard Bible (©1995) because they have acted foolishly in Israel, and have committed adultery with their neighbors’ wives and have spoken words in My name falsely, which I did not command them; and I am He who knows and am a witness,” declares the LORD

 

King James Bible But lusted exceedingly in the wilderness, and tempted God in the desert.

 

Ezekiel 23:5 Amplified Bible (AMP) And Aholah played the harlot when she was Mine, and she was foolishly fond of her lovers and doted on the Assyrians her neighbors,

 

Ezekiel 23:20  Holman Christian Standard  – and lusted after their lovers, whose sexual members were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of stallions.
 

American King James Version  I will do these things to you, because you have gone a whoring after the heathen, and because you are polluted with their idols.

In case you were no aware of it yet  the Bible clearly implies that adultery is God’s trap, punishment for those who had displeased him.. for adulterly does not bring any lasting happiness, it is a short lived pleasure. 

Some others would still rather say that the spousal realtionships is the most important aspect?
 
The supposedly Important MARRIAGE  Intimacies? SELF CENTERED GOALS?
–  a bond of Spiritual Intimacy… but the FIRST all important relationship is not that  between a husband and wife but that one with  God!  Too often God is neglected and why is that? No excuses here are acceptable.
– Emotional Intimacy… the “heart to heart” connection the intimate couple CRAVED BY EMOTIONAL WOMEN?  and certainly not by men, many men tend to lie to women to make them feel good here..
– Intellectual Intimacy… SEEMS TO BY PASS ANY NEED FOR  LOVE.. Though we allow one another to be unique,  is it important that we share common core values? A truly intimate couple will often even think the same thing? or be led by the same evil spirit? REAL LOVE ACCEPTS A PERSON THE WAY THEY ARE EVEN WITH THE DIFFERENCES.
– Sexual Intimacy or Sexual compatibilty  IS VERY IMPORTANT  too? God has designed a very special physical relationship that draws a husband and wife closer than ever? or a lust that causes them to be tempted by others?  Sexual! This seems to be the biggest goal of may persons sadly. Sex still does not make you happy like Jesus does. Many people who have sex are still unhapy with each other, life too.
 
Most marriages that fail still do fail not due to marital intimacy failures but firstly fail  due to laziness, unrealistic expectations, pursuing bad or false values, extreme goals, self centeredness and ADULTERY..
     
Prov 6:26  For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
Prov 6:27  Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
Prov 6:28  Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?
Prov 6:29  So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.
Prov 6:30  Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry;
Prov 6:31  But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house.
Prov 6:32  But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
Prov 6:33  A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
Prov 6:34  For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
Prov 6:35  He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.

(Exo 20:14 KJV)  Thou shalt not commit adultery.

(Lev 20:10 KJV)  And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

(Deu 5:18 KJV)  Neither shalt thou commit adultery.

(Jer 3:8 KJV)  And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.

(Jer 3:9 KJV)  And it came to pass through the lightness of her whoredom, that she defiled the land, and committed adultery with stones and with stocks.

(Jer 5:7 KJV)  How shall I pardon thee for this? thy children have forsaken me, and sworn by them that are no gods: when I had fed them to the full, they then committed adultery, and assembled themselves by troops in the harlots’ houses.

(Jer 7:9 KJV)  Will ye steal, murder, and commit adultery, and swear falsely, and burn incense unto Baal, and walk after other gods whom ye know not;

(Jer 23:14 KJV)  I have seen also in the prophets of Jerusalem an horrible thing: they commit adultery, and walk in lies: they strengthen also the hands of evildoers, that none doth return from his wickedness: they are all of them unto me as Sodom, and the inhabitants thereof as Gomorrah.

(Jer 29:23 KJV)  Because they have committed villany in Israel, and have committed adultery with their neighbours’ wives, and have spoken lying words in my name, which I have not commanded them; even I know, and am a witness, saith the LORD.

(Ezek 16:32 KJV)  But as a wife that committeth adultery, which taketh strangers instead of her husband!

(Ezek 23:37 KJV)  That they have committed adultery, and blood is in their hands, and with their idols have they committed adultery, and have also caused their sons, whom they bare unto me, to pass for them through the fire, to devour them.

(Hosea 4:2 KJV)  By swearing, and lying, and killing, and stealing, and committing adultery, they break out, and blood toucheth blood.

(Hosea 4:13 KJV)  They sacrifice upon the tops of the mountains, and burn incense upon the hills, under oaks and poplars and elms, because the shadow thereof is good: therefore your daughters shall commit whoredom, and your spouses shall commit adultery.

(Mat 5:27 KJV)  Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

(Mat 5:28 KJV)  But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

(Mat 5:32 KJV)  But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

(Mat 19:9 KJV)  And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

(Mat 19:18 KJV)  He saith unto him, Which? Jesus said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness,

(Mark 10:11 KJV)  And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.

(Mark 10:12 KJV)  And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

(Mark 10:19 KJV)  Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.

(Luke 16:18 KJV)  Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

(John 8:3 KJV)  And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,

(John 8:4 KJV)  They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.

(Rom 2:22 KJV)  Thou that sayest a man should not commit adultery, dost thou commit adultery? thou that abhorrest idols, dost thou commit sacrilege?

(Rom 13:9 KJV)  For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

(Gal 5:19 KJV)  Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

(James 2:11 KJV)  For he that said, Do not commit adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou commit no adultery, yet if thou kill, thou art become a transgressor of the law.

(2 Pet 2:14 KJV)  Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children:

(Rev 2:22 KJV)  Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.

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http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/

Thinking about God reduces distress,

 
One of the funny things I find about real  life for me is that it is too often  still is periods of either feast or famine, of one having an abundance or one faces poverty, having an absolute minimum essentials.. one has too much work or not enough.. one has too little time or too much free time, or one can’t find the time to be alone, to rest, versus one has  too much solitude and the same thing applies to one’s friends..  one has loads of superficial friends, or a bare minimum of good, trustworthy friends.
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(Eccl 5:19 KJV)  Every man also to whom God hath given riches and wealth, and hath given him power to eat thereof, and to take his portion, and to rejoice in his labour; this is the gift of God.
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(Eccl 6:2 KJV)  A man to whom God hath given riches, wealth, and honour, so that he wanteth nothing for his soul of all that he desireth, yet God giveth him not power to eat thereof, but a stranger eateth it: this is vanity, and it is an evil disease.
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(Eccl 7:14 KJV)  In the day of prosperity be joyful, but in the day of adversity consider: God also hath set the one over against the other, to the end that man should find nothing after him.
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(Eccl 7:15 KJV)  All things have I seen in the days of my vanity: there is a just man that perisheth in his righteousness, and there is a wicked man that prolongeth his life in his wickedness.
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(Eccl 7:16 KJV)  Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself?
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(Eccl 7:17 KJV)  Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time?
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(Eccl 7:18 KJV)  It is good that thou shouldest take hold of this; yea, also from this withdraw not thine hand: for he that feareth God shall come forth of them all.
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(Eccl 7:19 KJV)  Wisdom strengtheneth the wise more than ten mighty men which are in the city.
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(Amos 3:10 KJV)  For they know not to do right, saith the LORD, who store up violence and robbery in their palaces. 11   Therefore thus saith the Lord GOD; An adversary there shall be even round about the land; and he shall bring down thy strength from thee, and thy palaces shall be spoiled.
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 Thinking about God reduces distress, study finds
 http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/Health/20100806/religion-stress-study-100808/
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If you want to reduce your stress level and feel less upset, perhaps you should think about God. Investigators at the University of Toronto Scarborough found that when people think about God and religion, their brains respond in ways that allows them to react with less distress.

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Stress, Religion and God

The physiological and psychological impacts of stress are well known and range from depression and anxiety disorders to gastrointestinal problems, high blood pressure, sexual dysfunction, hair loss, obesity, and diabetes, among others. Findings effective ways to help people cope with or manage stress, therefore, is an important goal.

Given that 85 percent of people in the world have some type of religious belief system, Michael Inzlicht, assistant psychology professor, and Alexa Tullet of the University of Toronto Scarborough decided to uncover what functions such beliefs might serve.

http://www.emaxhealth.com/1275/reduce-stress-think-about-god
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(1 John 1:10 KJV) If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.
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YOU DO REALIZE THAT DEPRESSION IS A BIG PERSONAL PROBLEM IN MANY PEOPLE’S LIFE EVEN CAUSE THEY DO NOT FACE THE ROOT, OTHER CAUSES OF IT BUT THEY INSTEAD TOO OFTEN RATHER TRY TO MASK IT WITH DRUGS, MEDICATIONS, BOOZE, ACTIVITIES..
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Sadly very few persons still do care about taking positive steps to insure a healthy body, or dealing with depression, those who do tend to do the absolute minimum.. most people do not know what to do or do not care to do anything until it is almost too late. Few people seriously read about these topics now too..

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https://jesussayscome.wordpress.com/2015/03/06/depresion-and-major-problem-for-many/

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Christian Divorce VS Remarriage

(Matthew 19:1 KJV)    And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
2  And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
3  The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4  And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5  And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7  They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8  He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
10  His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11  But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12  For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.